There is a step in successful goal setting that many people miss. Let me share a story with you that illustrates this step beautifully .... (This story begins in 2008 - see below for updates)
Jesinta Campbell - that's probably a name you haven't heard before, but I have a sneaking suspicion it is one that you might well hear in the future (and remember you heard it here first lol!).
Jesinta is a beautiful young 17 year old, who is just about to graduate from high school, who sits with the world at her feet. I've known Jes since she was 7 years old, and in recent years she was Connor's #1 babysitter - and I simply couldn't have prescribed a better role-model for my daughter.
Now you may be wondering where is this going? And what has it got to do with goal setting? Well bear with me a moment or two ...
Well, Jes has been picked up by a modeling agency, and she's about to head overseas to do some modeling, but her real focus is on becoming an actress - she is using the modeling as one of her stepping stones, toward her acting career and from this platform, she wants to be able to contribute to the world through charity work.
As she excitedly told me about her plans, she made the comment that some 'wiser' people have told her to have back-up plans 'just in case'. My response to her was "Ignore them!" I asked her, "Does that advice come from people who are living the life that you aspire to?"
Her response in a moment .... Let's take a look at why you don't want a back-up plan - and even how it could even be a hinderance to successful goal setting ...
For Successful Goal Setting Only Have 'Plan A'
I have read so many books and interviews of highly successful people - and it seems the vast majority of them have a Plan A, and never a Plan B - because Plan B just isn't an option. If they are excited by, and drawn to something, then they commit whole-heartedly to it.
Put a back-up plan in place, guess what you are calling to you - the back-up plan. Having a backup plan, simply tells yourself and everyone else that you don't back yourself. You don't believe you really have what it takes to achieve your dreams.
Give yourself a way out, and you give yourself a sure-fired way to sabotage your own success.
Have a look, in this clip, at what Seal had to say to a contestant in an edition of The Voice Australia, 2013, about having a back up plan.
The biggest challenge, the biggest obstacle most of us face in achieving our goals, dreams, desires is what goes on within our mind. Because you may have experienced some failures in your life, your belief in yourself may not be as strong as it was when you were younger.
So to reiterate ... For Successful Goal Setting ... have only a Plan A
For Successful Goal Setting Give Your Undivided Attention To What You WantFocus instead, on what it is you want, and give it your undivided attention. Every time you think of what it is you want, fill yourself with the joyful expectation that it is going to unfold... just perfectly. Try to banish, as much as you can, those negative nelly thoughts.
When you are passionate about something, and eagerly anticipating it, then make the commitment to yourself to give all you have to that one idea, to that one focus. To believe that it is yours. This type of commitment is what will carry you through - it's the 'no matter what' thinking that will sustain, and inspire you, to lose yourself utterly in what you love, what you desire, what you want.
Let me encourage you - it's not as hard to achieve success or your goals as you make it out in your own head - which can often be your biggest obstacle - that space between your ears!
I know, that when I first went into business for myself there was a part of me that thought - if push comes to shove and it doesn't work out - I can always go back into a paid job.
As those in my closest circle know, that almost happened in the early days of this business.
Then one day, I awakened with a decision firmly implanted in my mind. I decided, "No, a job is no longer an option for me". That day I completely committed myself to my dream. Amazingly, once Plan B was no longer an option, then magic happened. Losing myself to my dream meant intense joy followed - all of a sudden opportunities started coming my way - seemingly out of the blue! If anything was to convince me that successful goal setting started first in my head, it was this experience!
With that alignment, it was easy for the Universe to get behind me and help line up all that it is I wanted.
I sit here today, certainly having faced some challenging times, but so completely happy! It is about faith without evidence.
I'm so glad I made the decision to only have Plan A. And yes, it was as simple as that - a decision. So, for successful goal setting, make a firm decision to give your undivided focus to where you are heading.
You Need to Know What Is Calling YouWhat dream, hope, desire do you have that you've been sabotaging, because you have a plan B or worse still you're living Plan B? Break off the shackle and give your undivided attention to what it is you want. My challenge to you is ... ... after reading this article, ask yourself,
- "What dream, goal, desire have I got, that I am running with a Plan B.
- How do I need to change my thinking, and the actions that I'm taking, so that the only option is Plan A?".
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For Successful Goal Setting You Must Bring Yourself Into Alignment
Fill yourself with hope, joy, enthusiasm for your dream and consistently hold those emotions and you are a long way down the path to drawing your dream to you.
Big warning though!
If every time you think of your dream, you come from a place of desperation, fear, sadness, uncertainty, disillusionment - you will certainly push it away. You will put the brakes on your successful goal setting process.
The balancing act is to be joyfully expecting your dream to manifest, while being very very happy with where you find yourself today. I love a throwaway line of Abraham's "Happy where I am and eager for more!"
Like Colonel Sanders, of KFC fame, you may have grey hair before you achieve your dream, however, if you can be happy along the way and hold the faith, you can't help but be successful in the truest sense of the word.
I've discovered that when I hold myself to living in a place of delighted anticipation, joyous hope, happy to be experiencing each moment, however, it unfolds ... well life is just delicious ... even when I haven't quite achieved yet all that I desire.
Jesinta's Successful Goal SettingBack to Jesinta - and this is why I adore this young woman so much - her response to me - (before I got the chance to ramble as I have here with you) - was: "I'm glad you said to ignore it, because that's what I was thinking. I want to focus all my energy into making this work, because if I have a Plan B, it means I don't really believe in myself".
What a wise 17 year old! Do you need to listen to some wisdom from a 17 year old:)?
Jesinta is living her dream and is currently in China doing shoots for Prada and Tiffanys! And she is not yet 18 years old!
And, if you are sitting there thinking ... well that's alright for her she doesn't have a mortgage, wife, husband, kids blah blah blah ... well you're wrong she does have commitments ... however what she also has, in bucket loads ... is belief in herself - an attitude that so many of us who have become 'older and wiser' have forgotten!
If you have a few grey hairs ... then cast your mind back to those years when you felt invincible and then bring that feeling into today. Now every time you get a shake of the jidders - and think your can't pursue your dream ... well the successful goal setting action skill you need to visit, is to re-live in your mind that invincible time ... and take "Inspired Action".
Trust me on this one, I do it all the time and life is amazing when you only follow Plan A
Update June 2010
Guess who was just crowned Miss Universe Australia??
I said at the start of this article that you would be hearing from from this remarkable young woman. Jesinta's star is shining bright now ~ and will for years to come. Her focus, dedication and commitment to herself, and her goals is seeing her living a life that many others only dream of.
The Miss Universe pageant sets the stage for Jesinta to achieve her long term goals - it provides her with the platform to make the changes in the world to which she is committed. I'll let you in on a little secret - you ain't seen nothing yet! The beauty, courage, compassion and intellect of this woman will change our world, in a remarkable way.
In the meantime we have some serious celebrating to do today! :)
Update September 2010
What a whirlwind of a ride Jes has been on. She was crowned Miss Congeniality in the Miss Universe pageant held in Las Vegas and was 3rd overall. Not bad! We are all wonderfully delighted with Jes' success - but more importantly delighting in watching her bloom upon her return to Australia.
The exposure she has gained, through the Miss Universe experience, has meant many t.v gigs for her here in Australia, but most importantly her profile has meant that she has been able to contribute, in meaningful ways, to the charity work which she holds so dear to her heart.
Stay tuned - this wonderful young woman will continue to impact our world
Jes's Plan A just keeps moving forward at a rapid rate.
She performed magnificently in the Australian Celebrity Apprentice show. For those of you in Australia who watched the series ... you absolutely got to see, the young woman we all know and love. How she appeared on the show is exactly as we, who know her, find her.
It has been a great couple of years for Jesinta - with her life continuing to blossom as she grows into her self and her womanhood. She performed on Dancing With the Stars and raised over $160,000 for her chosen charity ... The Reach Foundation. Reach is dear to Jes's heart because she was bullied at school and Reach supported her amazingly.
Be inspired by Jesinta and her successful goal setting ... stick with your Plan A!
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