Is Your Emotional Wake Sabotaging Your Success?

The emotional wake you leave behind, when you leave a room or a conversation, is a good indicator of the dent you are making in the universe!

Have you ever had someone rip the heart out of you, and they didn't realize what they had done?

It might have been a look, it might have been a word, it might have been an action. But all of a sudden you found yourself lost at sea, with your mainsail ripped to shreds, feeling damaged and rudderless.

On the flip side have you ever had someone make a comment, or touch you in a particular way that turned your world inside out and set you on a new journey, a new destination that enabled you to step into, and use more of your potential?

For someone like you, a High Performance Leader, a person who wants to have an impact in the world, there is never a trivial comment, an insignificant look, a passing glance. What you say and do can have a long and profound impact on another person.

I remember my sister telling me one time, about a comment I had said to her, that had caused her for years to feel insignificant and powerless. A conversation I don't even remember!

So are you responsible for how others feel? Heck no. As I've said elsewhere, every person is responsible for his or her own emotional happiness. You have absolutely no control over how another person is going to react and give up trying to control others and their responses - you can't. Each person must step above the line and take responsibility for how they respond to people and circumstances in their life.

However, having said that ...

Wouldn't you like to feel, that the emotional wake you leave behind, is one that inspires and ignites rather than deflates and demoralizes?

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I certainly know that after I've left someone - be it a loved one, a client, someone who has served me in the local supermarket .... that my dominant intent is that the emotional wake I leave behind is 'feel good'. My strongest desire is that I am living my life as a message and not a warning, and that my vibe inspires and energizes others.

Does that mean I never have tough conversations with people? That I let people who are under-performing live below the line? Heck no! But, before I talk with them, I spend time looking for and focusing on the good that I see in this person. I ask myself questions like:

  • 'How can I share with them a different perspective, that might enable them to view their actions through a different lens, yet still uplifts them?'
  • 'How can I help them grow while still letting them know that they are perfect where they are?'

Do I get it right every time? Heck no. If only I was perfect smile

I still at times find myself haranguing Connor (my daughter) about something, or giving her that look, (You know the one that says ...'you're a mess-up'). But, I am focusing on wisely using the moment of choice.

It is in the moment of choice that I have the opportunity to decide - keep going down this path - hectoring, judging and misaligned with my true self - how will that make me and Connor feel?

Or do I make the choice to realign, tune into my Power Source and be an uplifter an inspirer, a person and Mother who leaves an emotional wake that creates a story that enhances her and me?

When you make wise use of the moment of choice, you become more of who you truly are. It helps you to find the words, gestures, and body language that helps both you, and whomever you are interacting with, to be at their best.

You see by being deliberate about the vibe you are sending, making the decision that you are an uplifter, that your intent in every interaction is to leave an emotional wake that buoys not drowns, you give yourself every chance to get it right ... more often than not.

So, what emotional wake are you leaving behind? Use the moment of choice to be who you are meant to be - an uplifter and an inspiration to others ... a leader who is making a positive dent in the universe.

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