Do you have the skills that enable you to influence just about anyone to want to work with you rather than against you?
Unfortunately most people simply don't have the skills to be able to successfully navigate the minefield that can be workplace relationships.
In fact I'd estimate that more than 80% of the time I spend as a coach to high-performance leaders - is spent on helping these leaders to work their way through performance issues and problems with others.
Building strong relationships, through effective communication, is the primary work of any leader. When you have the trust of others, and they believe that by collaborating with you, their personal results will improve... then you have the world at your feet.
This is why so much of this site, is dedicated to helping you be the best possible version of you, and helping you to improve your capability to build strong, effective, worthwhile interpersonal relationships.
The articles, listed below, will help you build upon your relationships skills in the workplace. They will help you more fully understand yourself, others and how to get the very most from your work experience through the relationships you develop both as a leader and a team member.
A gentle reminder before we get into the articles
Be kind to yourself. If you have a bunch of relationships that aren't working as well as they could ... it can feel a bit daunting. Instead focus on taking it one step at a time ... one conversation at a time. Each time you interact with someone, remind yourself that you want to be the best possible version of you. If you take the few seconds to do this in every interaction you have ... you will set yourself up for a life-time of feeling good.
Ultimately, isn't it the quality of our relationships and the people who want to be with us, that define our lives?
So whether you are in a crisis situation ... you have that sinking feeling that most of the people around you, would rather that your weren't around. Or, whether your interpersonal relationships are pretty good, and you just want to take them to the next level, in the articles below you will find some ideas, tips and tools you'll be able to use.
In the early part of my career I was certainly guilty of being too aggressive, and abrasive, and boy did it cost me. It cost me both in terms of limiting my career progression, and it cost me in terms of stress, and unhappiness ... I knew I was upsetting others ... I knew people didn't always like me ... I knew that I wasn't being as effective as I could be and I would get more frustrated which led me to take it out on my team which led to ..... you can see the spiral I was on.
Now many years... and literally hundreds of books, and attending hours upon hours, at workshops (either as a learner or trainer)... later - I have much to share with you to help you improve your workplace relationships - in fact the added benefit is ... when you apply what you discover here in these workplace relationship articles - you'll also improve your personal relationships. And that is possibly even more important!
In this first article, we look at the mindset you want to have BEFORE you approach that person you struggle with. The right mindset going in will pay dividends.
If you are shying away from dealing with difficult team members, then this article makes it pretty clear how much you are putting your entire team's performance at risk.
This is a two article series. In this first article we cover 3 tips -- knowing the impact you make as a leader, being squeaky clean yourself and how to identify high, medium and low performers.
In this second article we cover not just singling out the poor performers, being kind vs being truthful, performance discussions and recognizing the 'right' performance.
Got chronic complainers in your workplace? They spend inordinate amounts of time each day bending the ears of anyone who will listen. Complainers can be draining. Follow these tips to shift them from complainer to solutions finder.
If you've ever wondered what drives some people to behave the way they do -- you'll find some great keys here to unraveling that mystery! Also discover why you maybe driving those who work with you nuts!
In this second part of the article we take a look at the Adult and Child styles and
The leader sets the climate for communication in the workplace. Is your personality and leadership style helping or hindering the flow of communication?
These tips will help you to recognize and then stop verbal abuse in the workplace, so that you create good working relationships that enable you and your team to perform well.
For your personal and professional success mastering the skill of managing your boss is critical. In this article find out what not to do when managing your boss
In the first article in this series we looked at what not do when managing your boss. Now we turn our attention to what to do make sure that you and your boss are getting the best from each other!
How a leader can improve another person's performance, by giving more attention to the positive traits than the negative
Whether on the receiving or giving end, at some point you will find yourself embroiled in a toxic relationship. Here are some ways out of such a situation ...
Here are 10 signs of a bad relationship (regardless of whether its a personal or professional relationship) and some tips to help you overcome them ...
This article contains a list of the most common types of conflict, and an important rule to follow to successfully resolve personality conflicts ..
Overcome conflict in the workplace by working with people's differences ...
Gossip in the workplace can stop team performance in its tracks. Use these tips to be the best leader you can, and role model for others how to avoid the gossip trap.
With so much riding on your capability as a communicator you probably don't need much convincing to constantly improve this facet of your life. Its our natural instinct to get defensive when faced with a challenging situation - here's how to avoid that poor instinct.
A lack of assertiveness in the workplace causes people to avoid giving appropriate feedback and results in under-performance ...
Reading your audience is an important part of communicating. The non-verbal communication clues you get from others helps you to know whether you are hitting the mark or not ...
Which piece of technology is causing you to become a poor communicator?
Here are eight practical and effective principles to use to ensure that any communication you make gets 'heard'.
Listening Skills are a hugely important skill for any high performance leader. Assess you capability in this all important communication skill.
We all have people who drive us batty (and we drive others batty too!). Use this e-learning to help you become even more people smart - become competent at identifying people's preferred style of thinking and behaving . . .
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